How to Spot the Loveliest People in the World

102 thoughts on “How to Spot the Loveliest People in the World”

1. The irony about being one or finding one is , they are so hidden and stuck in nooks and crannies and to find them you have to be one too, it makes them so isolated as well.

   1. Wonderful point! They’re not the ones likely to walk around wearing sandwich boards proclaiming their inner gifts, are they? Beautifully said.

   2. If you were not one you would not recognize them for who they are. You have to see life on the same wavelength and realize that everything about your life and their life is the result of cause and effect.

   3. -because they are shunned by the image-obsessed masses.

   4. @m0-m0597
      No judgement here but it is obvious you are not one of these people he is talking about.

   5. @swarnendu
      Go online and find a core values worksheet(s) and do the work. What you are describing is similar to being a gardener that loves to grow tomatoes but cannot enjoy them because of being allergic to them.

2. I need an entire animated series about this adorable puppy’s daily thoughts.

   1. I just about fell of the toilet while reading this. Thanks for the laugh.

   2. Sheep in the big city comes to mind 😂

   3. There is a channel vagely similar to this called Tofupupper

   4. 😂😂😂

   5. Reminds me of Puppy and Kitty Therapy… I often go to the local puppy and kitty pet shop and imagine what they are thinking. They are all so horribly cute (I can’t have a pet in my apartment). Puppy and Kitty Therapy kept me “sane” during the long COVID lockdown.

      Greetings from Japan.

3. Didn’t know accepting my depression could make me so lovely 🙂

   1. Same. I never really thought about this before, about how my way of being in the world could be of utility/comfort to someone else, for the very aspects that often leave me feeling bad about myself, because they’re traits that are often viewed as negative.

   2. The deepest despair, can teach you to love life.

   3. Recognizing life for what it is isn’t “depression.”

   4. Well, you are lovely, so deal with it. Can’t get a refund.

      ❤

   5. Good luck

4. “Don’t be particularly attached to appearing sane.” This is the permission slip I needed.

   1. When you realize that everything about this world is upside down, backwards and is built on a big lie, fitting in is not sanity.

   2. Agree with you! Good luck!

   3. If the wider group has decided that insanity is ‘sane’, then all the sane people will be judged as ‘insane’ by that same group. Go be you. It’s so worth it.

   4. @@elonever.2.071 what do you think is the big lie?

   5. Life got a lot more fun when I really stopped caring about seeming normal. I answer half of my girlfriend’s questions with “meow?”…in public. Now she meows at me. It’s fun.

5. “…they would never be so mean as to try to cheer you up” — YES

   1. I also thought that phrase was very deep.
      when someone is in deep depression cheering them up could be highly damaging and hurtful. it could be really mean actually.

   2. 👏👏👏👏👏

   3. Once in school I had a friend try to sing a song about my beloved dog that passed away the day prior. It caused me a great deal of pain and my other friend almost broke the singing friends arm to get her to stfu and leave me alone as i grieve.

   4. I try to be diplomatically realistic. If someone asks me their opinion of their outfit, and I think it’s aesthetically displeasing, I would maybe say something like “I personally do not fancy your outfit but can see why people would consider it pleasing to the eye. The colors and textures clash to my fashionably unclined mind. Perhaps I’m a minority of such opinion, so take it for what it’s worth.”

6. “I have come to recognise that being trustworthy does not demand that I be rigidly
   consistent but that I be dependably real.” – Carl R. Rogers.

   1. real

   2. Real

   3. Real

   4. Real

   5. I stole this quote and commented it on their TikTok post so more people will see it because 🤌🏻👌🏻

7. My office mate is such a person. The best gift life has gifted me. She has an extremely dark sense of humor, complains about her job, colleagues, and marriage every single day (and will tell you even the most embarrassing bit, like difficulty in the bedroom), yet is still a very very sweet and empathetic person. When I make mistakes, she’d be the best person to comfort me. When I experienced grief, she’s the only person that can listen to my loss and cry with me. She gets through life with minimal hope, often expecting the worst to happen, but she’s still very responsible and can find joy in some of her work. She has a lot of hobbies and never takes anything seriously. What a remarkable person. I do aspire to be more like her.

   1. Umm this person is very very similar to me 😂

   2. Damn, wish I could meet her.

   3. Me too, I wish I could meet the both of you cuz I’m also like that😉

   4. Sounds like a deeply troubled person!!! Though with some good qualities

   5. Hey, I have one too, but she left. She’s an amazing person, and I think to say the most amazing person I’ve met is an understatement. We still keep in touch though, just not seeing her or talking to her on a daily basis, I won’t lie, gets a bit hard because I don’t get to meet great person like her mostly.

8. You’re actually describing my dog. I’ll take notes and try to be more like him.

   1. Are you going to add to the notes that he enjoys eating raw meat? Are you going to do that too?

   2. @@bootscooty what 😭

   3. ​@@bootscooty U never tried sushi?

9. It takes a lot of personal development to get from being unaware to becoming hyper-aware, to letting go and just live.
   But to the untrained eye, the first and the last look the same.

   1. Great comment ! At one point the best personal development is actually letting go of personal development

   2. I have found myself for the first time recently being hyper aware of the hows and whys of social relationships and life in general, I miss the nieve days when I didn’t have anxious thoughts or thought about how others saw me but the growth and lessons come only after being hurt sometimes

   3. So true…..

   4. @@louiejackson2312 I know right. I’m in the hyper-aware stage and it’s hell.

   5. This reminds me of the bell-curve meme and it’s so true.

10. these are also the kind of people who stay silent for most of their lives, and leave this madness gently, without a chance to get to know them

    1. Popularity and publicity are rarely functions of enlightenment.

       🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨

    2. &Kinan300BC that was my father, a tortured soul but such a beautiful person.

    3. This is so insightful. This was my mum, who died just four months ago. Only really now am I realising how little of her I truly knew.

    4. thats called social anxiety if anything

11. I have always believed that experiencing suffering makes people nicer to others

    Edit: To everyone saying that experiencing suffering makes some people bad, so they hurt others in return. That’s also true. That’s oftentimes a result of resentment that feeds vengeful behavior. That can be weak. But not all suffering makes people resentful. Some people are stronger than that. And not all sufferings can be blamed on other people. If someone did you wrong, it makes no sense to do the same thing to someone else who doesn’t deserve it, so you should avoid doing the same thing to someone else, because you understand the impact it would have.

    1. It absolutely teaches empathy and sympathy.

    2. suffering makes people nice or ruthless. it’s just a matter of how they handled it and how they came on top of it.

    3. ​@@laladieladadayou are right, I experience both feelings and pretty much debate myself almost everyday on how I should look at life.

    4. @@redishdude me too. It’s a case by case basis for me

    5. Careful now, suffering caused by other people due to foolish interests may result to apathy. Child abuse comes into mind.

12. This isn’t meant to be a brag at all, but I’m simply so proud of the fact, that I learned to listen to people and to let them be just the way they are in that moment. It’s only over the past couple of years I’ve come to realise that not a lot of people are actually able to do that, like most will try to get rid of your pain because they can hardly tolerate their own, or immediately go into their head and start problem solving on a practical level without acknowledging any of the feelings. I’m so glad it’s a rare gift I can give to others, and that I’ve also found two friends who can do the same for me.

    1. To each their own.. Most of the people I’ve had as friends were like this. And to be honest, in hindsight I don’t consider them to be good friends. No one stepped in to kindly let me know the man I was in a three year relationship was toxic. (They let me know after I left him.) They listened but no one gave advice or pointed out ways I could improve or that my boyfriends were horrible. I grew up with narcissists and didn’t have the social skills and tools that people with healthier upbringings have. I kind of resent all the listening and passivity, especially when I really needed to see or learn healthier perspectives in life. For this reason, I make sure to give to my new friends the way my previous friends didn’t.

    2. @@pennPi Yes exactly I think you need both. It can be tricky though so I think it’s best to ask and just test the waters and see how they react

    3. i don’t think you’re being boastful in any way, i think it’s amazing you’re self aware! not a lot of people who can recognize their strengths as most tend to fixate on their weaknesses so kudos to you!

    4. @@pennPi i think that the message the commenter sent didn’t reach quite well, the people you’re talking about is actually those who simply do not care and would not be bothered to make you feel better or differently. But, what the OC is saying is that they have learnt to stop being very bothered by others’ problems trying to make them theirs and fixing them, but to just be a companion. I think that’s what I got from that.

       Personally, I feel like not trying to do anything is not a good thing, i mean i get what you’re trying to say when you say that such people cannot tolerate their own pain that they try to rid others’ of their problems but I feel like one should never feel like what @pennPi felt. I think it’s super hard to be an ideal companion when someone is in trouble because we always will do what feels right to us and not to the person, buttt i also understand that what felt right to us at the moment is exactly the right thing to do but it kinda makes things bad for the other person and my head is very unstable i guess😭

    5. I don’t think it’s a brag, when you learnt something valuable about yourself and what you managed to cultivate in yourself :). I have experienced the same thing with myself actually. The last few years I wondered why random people start gravitating towards me, and start to be open about very private things, from joyfully to dark. I have talked to people about their depression who I knew only for 10 minutes. And I think it really is this rare trait to view people as they are in that moment, and be understanding for their situations like this. It took few years to learn that not everyone can and wants to try and understand others like this. That not everyone is capable to expend their minds bejond their own inner beliefs and disbeliefs about fellow humans. That’s why so many people are alienated in our societies when they are “different”. Because not everyone can grasp how different can be a good and natural thing. Many just live In fear and reject what they can’t understand.
       To be fair my own vulnerability and hurt has helped me a great deal over the years to connect with other people, because I was not afraid to share it and be open. Which in conclusion tempts others to be open. And it’s often times conversations over our pain and fear that can us feel connected on a very human level. So… be proud and glad that you are one of the peoplewho can connect to others like that :).

13. The loveliest people I know do try to cheer me up, just not in a way that dismisses my suffering

    1. good point… acceptance and presence also helps.

    2. @kittydeleo4043, well said! I was thinking to comment how I actually do often want to be cheered up when I’m feeling bad – sometimes, it feels like a positive distraction is the only thing that will get me out of a negative thought spiral. But it only works if the person acknowledges how I feel and then offers that we watch a nice YouTube video together or go for a walk or something (because they know that it works for me, not because they don’t want to deal with my issues or don’t take them seriously). So, really good point about not dismissing, I hadn’t thought about that and I’m glad I saw your comment before I just left a comment about cheering people up.

    3. Thanks @@Doedling,0 I wish you a life full of the loveliest people :

    4. Thank you, @@kittydeleo4043 🙂 You too!

    5. Cheering someone up also has the unfortunate byproduct of not allowing that person to completely process their emotions/issues with your support

       I think im one of those people described in this video. It describes my life perfectly. I’ve also been through more than most. And tried many things more than others. It also allows me to talk and listen to the “worst” people out there, including my abusers, w/ empathy

14. Every time I meet a kind soul, I genuinely find it impossible to forget them. They stick around in my memory, occasionally popping up at unexpected times, never not making me smile, never not making my day better. God bless the lovely and kind. I love them ever so dearly.

    1. Same. Some of them are no longer in my life, but I’ll find myself occasionally telling someone about them. For no other reason than to let them know that this lovely person exists in the world, and for a time, I was lucky enough to have them in my life.❤

    2. Yes, I feel kindness is sooo rare. I think I’m a good person but I want to be kinder.

    3. I used to be this kind soul, doing whatever I could to make strangers or otherwise smile everytime. until I grew up and realized that some people found it weird so I became painfully selective, wish I could go back to high school

    4. I literally dont care what other people think when im kind,they’re gonna think no matter what you do, but whenever someone treated me kindly i always think good about them and repay them​@distortion1

    5. The awful ones do this to me. 😢

15. “They know that life is mostly pain, mystery, and error” was honestly such a banger of a line to drop.

    1. Fortune is 99% of existence. Chance. Luck. Anyone who states otherwise simply hasn’t realized that everything they have and everything they are was always based on randomness.

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    2. @@Novastar.SaberCombat. I don’t disagree. But we must work hard, plan, save money, be responsible. In these ways, we create some of our own luck. It reminds me of the free will problem. Many top thinkers believe we don’t truly have free will. But, need to assume we do.

    3. @@learningisfun2108is is the Dutch who say: you make your plans…. and god laughs…

    4. Except it’s not accurate in the slightest. Pessimistic, misanthropic claptrap.

    5. He’s describing people who have suffered, and have learned to do it gracefully. Very valuable/wise/compassionate people, I just wish the path was easier.

16. My old best friend was literally the best guy ever. He was actually the coolest person you could meet. The kinda guy that simply had the heart to not harm anyone. Than he took his own life. He kinda just absorbed all the bad things that happened to him and never gave any back. It’s like him killing himself was the sacrafise he had to make instead of being like us. He just left in silence. Wish i had it in me to testify for him back then. You couldn’t find a soul on earth that was ever harmed by that man.

    1. Im sorry for your lost, i hope he’s happier now in the better place 😢❤

    2. Heartbreaking. I am sorry for your loss and sorry your old best friend couldn’t find peace in living. So tragic.

    3. This too was my old best friend. He took his life in 1995.

    4. I’m a therapist and I have a client just like this and I’m really worried that if he doesn’t stand up for himself he’ll be crushed by the weight of other people’s callousness

    5. @LouisaWatt  Well , I do really hope that you help him to see a new side of himself. Maybe a version of himself that doesn’t need to respond like others. But responds with the rarest traits of man. You could show him charisma. Maybe help him become charasmatic. And give amd recieve positivity. I think that some people learn to become a bully to survive. Like most do. But charasmatic figures are almost like super heros. But to be charasmatic you have to be reserved first. Which is enduring those toxic offenses. I’m no therapist but this is what I wish I told my old friend. I saw such a incredible inherent value in him. But he didn’t see it. Didn’t believe it. He truly thought he was just not made for the world anymore. I believe that people who turn the other cheek should have high power cause they don’t act in hate!! They act how they think things outta be.

17. I don’t tend to think much of myself. I’m not a very capable person, and I’m horribly powerless against the world around me. Even my kindness seems to poison those near me, and I’m too wimpy to stop them from taking advantage.

    So yeah. I tend to view myself rather lowly.

    But to see my traits lined up and treated like they’re something to be praised… It makes my heart feel warm. Thank you for this video. It means a lot to me.

    1. Isnt it lovely to hear it?

    2. If you feel your kindness is being taken advantage of and you feel you can’t say no, maybe it helps to direct your kindness towards people you think deserve it more? That way you’d have a good reason to be less kind to others and not help them if they just try to take advantage of you. Just a thought though, not sure if that makes sense for you or your circumstances.
       Also if that video warmed your heart, you are probably an amazing person.

    3. @@jazzycakes6294 Tbh, that sounds really unhealthy. For you, the people who make you hurt and are horrible persons, and everyone they affect.
       Maybe it came across differently than you meant it, but then I don’t understand when you say that your kindness seems to poison those near you.
       While I agree that on some level, everyone is deserving of kindness, that doesn’t mean every behavior is. If someone is acting shitty, it’s perfectly fine for me if their needs aren’t met at that moment, as a reaction to their behavior. Unless they are literally dying without my help, they can certainly go on without some of their needs met.
       I mean, there are nuances to bad behavior and how one can react, but at some point it’s probably best to remove that person from your life and move on.
       I also think many so-called psychological disorders are mostly natural human reactions to unhealthy environments. The types of persons we surround ourselves with can have a tremendous effect on our mental health.

    4. @@IkeFoxbrush Oh! No no, I don’t put up with abuse or unhealthy behavior towards me at all! Not anymore, at least. I used to be horrible about it, letting anyone use me and walk all over me, taking blame that wasn’t mine for everything. I’ve grown a lot!

       Now, it’s just. I care about people so much. I can’t give up on anyone. I’ve never been able to. I set boundaries and take a step back if I need to. I reprimand and try to tell them why their treatment of me isn’t right. I stand up for myself now, and won’t allow myself to be mistreated. I take care of my own feelings now, too! Even if I still put them second to most. But I’ll never leave anyone alone if they want me. They have to be the one to leave. I’ll never turn anyone away. I know what it’s like to feel abandoned, betrayed, and alone. Not even the worst person deserves an eternity of that. Everyone deserves forgiveness. And I will always forgive, if someone is willing to try and be better.

       If they stay with me, I am going to do my damnedest to help them. If they don’t like that, they can leave and I won’t fight it. But I won’t let anyone who puts their faith in me down. I won’t abandon anyone, even for my own benefit.

       (My husband is frustrated and upset by this trait, especially when regarding certain people, but there is good in everyone. Some people just need help finding it.)

       Oh, and about the poisoning thing. I was just wrong, lol. I was doing kindness wrong. Sometimes kindness looks like cruelty. Sometimes you need to be harsh or firm to help people. I was too soft. I wasn’t being purely kind. I was being a coward. I was enabling people’s lesser traits, like selfishness and ego. It wasn’t kindness at all, to let myself be so freely used.

       I know better, now. I’m alright. I have to be strong and stand up for my convictions. I can’t help anyone if I let everyone cut me too deeply. I can bleed for them, but I cannot lose my sense of self for them. I have to remain as I am. I can’t be broken.

18. I’ll never forget this older woman who made such an impression on me when I was 19- she was like the mother figure i desperately needed. She would take me in, like her eyes they were just so kind and she always smiled when she saw me and asked me questions about my day and myself and it felt like she genuinely was interested and gave pause for me to speak. One day she was rubbing my back while i was telling her about my classes and it was so soothing and healing – my mother never held me or if she touched me it was to hit me or correct me. I didn’t know touch could be healing but it can. Some people are just kind and shine so bright that’s all they know. We need those people, i needed her

    1. I’m so glad she helped you to experience kindness and loving touch. Some moms are ill equipped, sorry.

19. That last beat was a twist of the knife— I’m living with cancer, and I’ve met a lot of Lovely people since I’ve been sick. The friend this reminded me of the most is already gone.
    “Against a backdrop of despair, they can laugh with exceptional richness and glee.”
    Regardless of what you’re going through, you know who this is for you. Hold them close.

20. The people who have tried to cheer me up have been some of the loveliest people…because they cared enough to try. And many of the loveliest people I’ve met have gone through great suffering and absolutely do not see life as mostly pain and error.

    1. I think you misunderstand what they mean by “cheer up”. I understood it as “they don’t try to invalidate your suffering and push it aside, but rather sit with you and show you compassion.” Essentially the opposite of telling someone you are really depressed and them telling you that you should be happy because XYZ

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